In this solo episode, I sit with a quote left by the previous guest, Matt Peale:
For things to change, you have to change. For things to get better, you have to get better.
What starts as a conversation about change quickly becomes something much more personal.
I talk about recovery, Bali, Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, and the strange reality that some people completely transform their lives in their seventies and eighties. People who spend decades living one way, only to discover that a single year of genuine change can become the best year of their lives.
This episode sits inside responsibility.
Not the social media version of responsibility. Not the self help version. The real version.
The uncomfortable moment where you stop waiting for life to change and start asking what needs to change inside you.
I speak about a difficult period in my own life involving a neighbour who pushed every button I had. Anger. Resentment. Revenge. The part of me that wanted to retaliate. The part of me that wanted to prove something.
Years ago I would have handled it differently.
That is what made it important.
Because real change is not what you say. Real change is what you do when life gives you another opportunity to become the person you used to be.
The conversation moves through projection, self reflection, recovery, consciousness, and the tendency we all have to blame different people while repeating the same patterns.
Different partner. Different job. Different city.
Same person.
The more I talk through it, the more it becomes clear that most of us spend our lives looking through the window when we should be looking in the mirror. We keep asking what is wrong with everybody else while avoiding the harder question.
What is waking up in me?
This is not a conversation about perfection.
It is about recognising that the common denominator in every area of your life is you.
Sometimes the thing that needs to change is not the world around you.
Sometimes it is the way you respond to it.
The question I leave for the next guest is this:
Why do we prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty?
It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist Hosted by Chad Taylor. Author of It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME
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