Since the betrayal in your marriage came out - have you been scrolling for hours, cleaning at midnight, or checking his phone one more time, and wondered why you can't stop?
When friends and family check in with you, do you say "I'm fine" so everyone else is "fine" while your own heart feels heavier every week?
Are you past the initial shock of finding out about your husband's infidelity but still struggle to pick up all the pieces?
IN THIS EPISODE YOU'LL WALK AWAY WITH...
- The four common ways survival mode shows up after betrayal: numb (freeze), busy (flight), hustling (fight), and people-pleasing (fawn)
- Why each mode made sense at first, but now it seems you are stuck
- How these modes can dress up as your protector and friend, when in reality that is what God wants to be to you
- One simple, practical way to respond differently to each mode instead of defaulting and justifying it because you still hurt
- What all four modes have in common, and why tending to your heart not staying in survival, is what really will move you forward in your healing journey
RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED
🗓️ SIGN UP FOR THE FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: The Heart Reset After Betrayal! Tuesday, October 6, 2pm PST. Get unstuck from survival mode with a 30-day reset map. REGISTER HERE FOR FREE!
🎙️ Episode 66: Stuck After Betrayal? Here's How Survival Mode Really Shows Up - the heart check that goes with this episode
Start here if you haven't done the "Vineyard Inventory":
📖 Proverbs 4:23 "Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard, for out of it flow the springs of life." - the image of being the keeper of our vineyard/garden
🎙️35 | What Has the Storm of Betrayal and Broken Trust Left Behind in Your Heart?
🎙️36 | Why I Still Can't Forgive: 8 Hidden Layers of Loss After Betrayal and Broken Trust
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CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS
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Next Steps
- Keep practicing this week's Mode Check, and notice which of the four modes is yours.
- If you've never walked the rows of your heart, listen to Episodes 33–35 and try the Vineyard Inventory.
- Register for the free live workshop on October 6 and build your own 30-Day Heart Reset Map with me.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
