What does it actually take to build a healthy non-monogamous relationship? In this episode, Tom (he/him) welcomes Andrew Reidenbach (he/him), psychotherapist and Clinical Director of Midtown Mind Psychotherapy, for an honest conversation about open relationships, polyamory, attachment, and the communication skills that help relationships thrive.
Andrew shares how he came to specialize in working with LGBTQ+ clients in non-monogamous relationships and explores why more people are questioning traditional relationship structures. Together, Tom and Andrew discuss the many forms of ethical non-monogamy, why communication and clear agreements are essential, how jealousy and attachment wounds show up, and why trust (not exclusivity) is often the foundation of successful relationships.
They also unpack common misconceptions about polyamory and open relationships, explore the role of shame and societal expectations, discuss navigating boundaries, sexual health, and time management, and offer guidance for couples who are considering opening their relationship for the first time.
Whether you're curious about ethical non-monogamy, exploring a new relationship structure, or simply interested in rethinking what healthy relationships can look like, this conversation offers a thoughtful, compassionate perspective on love, intimacy, and connection.
About Andrew:
Andrew Reidenbach is the founder of Midtown Mind Psychotherapy, a group practice based in New York City. His work focuses primarily on LGBTQ+ clients and trauma, integrating advanced relational psychodynamic training with attachment-focused EMDR. Andrew also brings clinical expertise in nonmonogamy, supporting individuals and couples in navigating complex relationship dynamics with depth and nuance.
Connect with Andrew:
Website: https://www.midtownmindpsychotherapy.com
Connect with Tom:
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