Rebuilding confidence after starting over doesn’t happen all at once. It happens one small, brave choice at a time. In this episode of Pulling Threads, Cammy De shares what it really looks like to reclaim your voice and take up space again while you’re still in the middle of healing.
Cammy didn’t expect to be starting over at forty. A mother of three, farmer, speaker, and stand-up comedian, she’s rebuilding her life after leaving an abusive marriage and business partnership, walking away not just from a relationship, but from a successful career, a way of life, and the communities that came with it. Instead of waiting until she has it all figured out, she talks openly about healing in real time: the uncertainty, the grief, the small wins, the laughter, and the surprising ways we find our way back to ourselves.
She and Leslie get honest about the fog that only lifts once you get distance, why confidence built on achievement can vanish overnight, and what it means to rebuild, a career, a voice, and a sense of self, without an existing platform. They also talk about the tools that actually help: humor, stand-up comedy, listening to your body, and letting healing move in seasons.
In this conversation:
• Living a “double life,” confident in public, silenced in private
• How clarity comes only after you create distance
• Rebuilding confidence from who you are, not what you’ve done
• Finding the joke in what was meant to hurt you
• Reclaiming your voice (and the surprisingly hard “mirror practice”)
• The role AI, algorithms, and podcasts played in her healing
• How to know when to rest versus when to push forward
If you’ve spent years taking care of everyone else and lost touch with your own voice, this one is for you.
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⏰Chapters:
00:00 Welcome & meet Cammy De
00:40 Starting over after divorce at 40
01:45 Building a successful farm while being silenced
05:10 Why clarity only came after leaving
09:25 "The clarity came when I walked out the door"
11:20 Gaslighting, finding support, and rebuilding confidence
17:25 Leaving everything behind to reclaim herself
22:45 Finding her voice after abuse
24:40 Rebuilding confidence from within
28:30 Starting over one small step at a time
32:00 Using comedy to reclaim power
33:05 Reclaiming your voice after being silenced
42:40 Why hearing other women's stories matters
43:35 Learning to rest instead of constantly pushing
49:45 Healing through life's seasons
54:00 Recreating the life you thought you lost
56:35 Celebrating small wins while healing
1:02:00 The relief that comes after divorce
1:05:30 "You are worth it"
1:06:40 Where to find Cammy De
Keywords: rebuilding confidence, starting over at 40, reclaiming your voice, healing after abuse, taking up space, healing in real time, midlife reinvention, rebuilding your life, women rebuilding, finding your voice again
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