Handjobs get a bad rap, but today we're bringing them back! In this episode, certified sexologist Ashley Manta joins us to explore why hand jobs deserve more respect. We break down her go-to techniques: the Pepper Grinder, the Bottle Rocket, why a baby bottle warmer might be the most underrated tool in your nightstand, and how foreskin changes the game. We also get into what to do when your partner goes soft, why mindset matters, as well as cannabis and sex and what it's like inside Desire Cruises and Hedonism.
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Jump to the Good Stuff:
05:35 – Ashley — sexologist, author, Betty Dodson mentee
07:02 – Why hand jobs get such bad PR
09:00 – The 3 non-negotiables: two hands, lube, time
10:35 – Setting the scene - the "giver's mindset"
12:20 – Best positions
18:45 – The baby bottle warmer lube hack
22:23 – Signature moves: the Pepper Grinder & Bottle Rocket
27:06 – Foreskin 101
30:55 – Inside Desire Cruises & Hedonism
49:31 – Cannabis, CBD myths, and the indica/sativa debate
Pleasure Highlights:
Two hands, lube, and time are the foundation.
Confidence matters more than technique.
Soft doesn't mean over.
Most CBD-only products are underdosed marketing.
Consent and intentionality around substances are non-negotiable.
Connect with Ashley Manta:
Instagram @cannasexual
Website: ashleymanta.com
Courses: elevatedintimacy.com
Book: Merry Jane's The CBD Solution: Sex: How Cannabis, CBD, and Other Plant Allies Can Improve Your Everyday Life
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