Almost everything you're already doing in bed is a kink. In this episode, Alex Gay, porn star, kink educator, and host of Kink Curious, joins us to break down what kink actually means (spoiler: it's way broader than you think), why almost everyone is "kinky" without realizing it, and how shame keeps so many of us stuck. We get into the difference between a kink and a fetish, consent and communication in kink spaces, why aftercare matters just as much as the main event, and how to start exploring safely if you're kink-curious but don't know where to begin.
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Jump to the Good Stuff:
06:52 – What is a kink, really?
07:14 – Kink vs. fetish
14:27 – Why most people are "kinky" without knowing it
28:00 – Biggest misconception about kink community
31:55 – How to start exploring a kink
34:11 – Building confidence outside the bedroom
37:17 – Consent in kink scenes
41:00 – What kink taught Alex about communication and vulnerability
44:27– Aftercare 101
Pleasure Highlights:
Kink is broader than most people think
Confidence in kink starts outside the bedroom.
Consent looks different and more intentional in kink.
Aftercare isn't extra, it's part of the experience.
Shame is the real barrier, not the kink itself.
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