Two leaders in a long-running feud both want the fighting to stop but cannot find their way to peace. Their coach gives them each homework to quiet the ill intent they ascribe to the other, allowing respect to emerge.

It’s hard to stop fighting with a person who feels like sour milk.

Tom’s three steps to help stop a fight are:

  1. Self-awareness – how are you contributing to keeping the fight going
  2. Choose a different mindset – stop justifying your anger
  3. Self-Management – choose new behavior

If you want to work on SELF-AWARENESS, you might listen to:

# 204 Blind Spots

# 209 How to Build Self-Awareness

# 103 Self-Awareness & Self-Management

# 190 Thinking Errors


If you want to more tools to STOP FIGHTING, you might listen to:

# 221 Conflict

# 222 The Conflict Conversation

# 235 The Conflict Resolution Wheel

# 189 “Don’t Take Anything Personally”

# 260 How to Guarantee Psychological Safety


If you’re curious about coaching, reach out to Tom here.


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Until next month, be well! 


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