Have you ever thought to yourself, ‘Well, now that I know, I’ll do better?” Lemme tell you, being aware of your patterns doesn’t mean they’ll change. You have to get into where they’re coming from and start to rewrite the stories that keep coming up in your behaviors and thoughts.
This is what rewriting your story is all about. You gotta move from awareness into reframing and conscious action taking.
In this episode, I get real with you about the shame I've been carrying around feeling like a failure, what came up when I finally sat in it instead of running from it, and the self-trust work I'm doing to separate my worth from my circumstances.
I also talk about why I have never been able to do this healing work alone — and why the Rewriters Collective is officially open for Q4.
So if you've been needing a room full of women doing this same messy, beautiful work, this is it.
KEY EPISODE INSIGHTS:
- Awareness isn't the finish line, it's the starting point. Knowing your pattern doesn't dissolve it. You have to unpack where it came from and actually rewrite the story underneath it.
- Externalizing "failure" separates the word from your identity. Even closing a business doesn't mean you are a failure. It's information, not a verdict on who you are.
- Self-worth has to get disconnected from the evidence. Revenue, sales, age, relationship status, other people's responses (or silence). None of it determines your value.
- Belonging isn't earned through performance. You don't have to succeed or be chosen to have a place.
- Receiving means loosening the grip. You don't have to force, chase, or engineer every outcome. You can create the conditions and let life meet you.
- You don't need to know who you're becoming to stop being who you no longer are. The in-between is the process, not a problem to solve.
- Healing work doesn't happen well in isolation. Having a friend, a therapist, a 12-step program, or a collective to reflect this stuff back is what actually makes the rewriting possible.
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
👉 Join The Rewriter’s Collective: https://jessicagrahamcoaching.com/about-the-rewriters-collective
👉To Be Magnetic
To Be Magnetic (affiliate): I mentioned To Be Magnetic (TBM), Lacey Phillips' guided meditation practice for subconscious reprogramming. I've used it myself for years and fold a lot of what I teach in Rewritten into it.
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About me: I help female entrepreneurs rewrite the stories that are keeping them stuck in outdated identities so they can stop overthinking, outsourcing decision-making, and playing small. I do this through my Beyond the Story Method and my signature program, Rewritten, which combines narrative therapeutic writing and community.
