Lorissa spent months trying to optimize every minute, and right before her birthday her body just quit. For the first time in her life she could not power through, and it cracked something open.
This is the monthly catch-up. Two kid birthdays, an anniversary, turning 35, and a real reckoning with where your worth actually comes from, plus a back-to-back run of going viral that turned into a test of handling hate online.
What We Cover
→ The epiphany that hit when being optimized started costing Lorissa the parts of life she actually wanted
→ Why she had to untangle her sense of worth from the number on her paycheck, and the exercise that helped her do it
→ What Alex does the second a hateful comment lands in her nervous system, plus the tool Lorissa swears by for the feelings logic cannot talk you out of
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Not caring what other people think has never come naturally to Alex. Staying steady when it lands takes real work, and the routine that keeps her grounded is what she teaches inside Wake Up Different.
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Connect With Us
Lorissa Violet
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Alex Payetta
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Timestamps
0:00 A month later, and a big birthday season
0:33 When being optimized starts taking the life out of life
1:22 The week her body refused to power through
1:45 Why she thinks the physical was emotional
3:46 The realization that her worth got tied to her income
5:02 Goals are financial, joy is not, and the gap between them
5:44 Going back to her 20-year-old self to thank her and let her go
7:06 The conscious brain and the subconscious pulling opposite ways
9:26 What systems are actually supposed to do for you
9:55 Bringing her husband into the business
10:31 Alex's month, going viral and the wave of hate that followed
11:06 Can you really just not care, or does it still land
13:47 Alex's reset when a comment gets under her skin
14:19 Clearing what is underneath with NET
18:04 Why the end of the night is when it gets you
21:26 Tapping, and how to actually do it
22:30 Quick catch-up wrap
