Somewhere along the way, "this is hard" became the highest compliment we paid motherhood.
Lorissa and Alex get into why hard-versus-easy is the wrong filter entirely, what they would put in its place, and why calling motherhood the hardest job in the world might be doing moms more harm than good.
What We Cover
→ The filter Alex uses instead of hard-versus-easy, and why it changes how you see almost every decision
→ Why Lorissa won't call motherhood the hardest job in the world, and the reframe she uses instead
→ The thing a first-time mom said to Lorissa in a group that she still thinks about years later
→ The pushback against discipline, and why Alex isn't buying it
Know it's worth it and still not getting to it?
Alex believes that hard versus easy is the WRONG filter, and the real question is what a thing gives back and whether that's worth it. Her free PDF walks you through the filter she actually uses instead, sorting what's essential from what you're only doing because you should, so you know what to own, delegate, protect and delete. Grab the PDF here → go.alexpayetta.com/timeback
Lorissa's List
Lorissa's curated list of the products, services, and providers actually worth your time, all vetted to a higher standard so you can skip the search.
→ lorissaviolet.com
Connect With Us
Lorissa Violet
lorissaviolet.com | @lorissaviolet
Alex Payetta
alexpayetta.com | @alexpayetta
Timestamps
0:00 Catching up, and the reel that sparked it all
0:48 Why hard-versus-easy is the wrong filter
1:35 "I don't think motherhood is the hardest job in the world"
3:06 The blanket comparisons we use to validate moms, and why they don't hold up
7:18 The comparison trap, and the benefit lens that breaks it
7:51 Why your hardest moments are also your most rewarding ones
10:34 The mom group, the emergency vet, and saying the unpopular thing
14:11 The pushback against discipline neither of them is buying
15:20 When looking for things to be mad about becomes the whole problem
