Episode Description

This is the episode I've been asked for since the beginning of this podcast — and the one I never thought I'd actually record.

Dating in eating disorder recovery is complicated in ways nobody really talks about. The body image stuff. The intimacy stuff. The validation-seeking that can look a lot like the disorder wearing a different mask. And eventually finding someone who makes you feel like a whole person.

In this episode I'm sharing all of it — including things I've never told the internet before.

In This Episode:

  • Why the eating disorder became my "new boyfriend" after a breakup
  • The validation loop I fell into when I first started dating in recovery
  • What it felt like to show up in a recovered body — body checking, disconnection during intimacy, comparison
  • How I finally flipped the script on dating
  • How I met my husband — including the text I sent trying to end it after date two
  • How and when to tell someone about your eating disorder history
  • What to do when a partner's food behaviors are triggering
  • The self-inquiry practice that helps when body image comes up in intimacy

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro 4:00 Today's topic — dating and intimacy in ED recovery 5:00 My high school relationship and self-worth 8:00 The breakup that contributed to my ED escalating 10:00 What dating looked like when I was deep in my disorder 14:00 The validation loop of dating apps 17:00 How that loop mirrored the eating disorder 19:00 What it felt like to date in a recovered body 23:00 Realigning to values in dating 27:00 How I met my husband 29:00 Telling someone about your ED history 33:00 When a partner's food behaviors are triggering 36:00 What my husband did differently 41:00 Self-inquiry for body image in intimacy 44:00 Closing thoughts

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Keywords/Tags: dating in eating disorder recovery, intimacy and eating disorders, body image and dating, ED recovery relationships, telling a partner about eating disorder, recovered-ish podcast, chloe cox, ED recovery podcast

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