Welcome back to When Our Adult Children Walk Away, a podcast dedicated to one of the most painful, and one of the least talked-about, experiences a family can go through: estrangement. I'm Dr. Janet Steinkamp. No guilt. No shame. No blame.
Social media did not cause your estrangement. But it may be making it feel more permanent, more absolute, and harder to resolve. In this episode, Dr. Janet Steinkamp breaks down what current research says about the role social media platforms play in estrangement dynamics, and why understanding the algorithm may be one of the most important steps toward finding your way forward.
IN THIS EPISODE:
- Why research does not support the claim that social media causes estrangement, but does raise concern about amplification
- How algorithm-driven content shapes what both parents and adult children see, believe, and feel
- What echo chambers are and how they reduce openness to alternative perspectives over time
- Why platforms reward outrage and certainty over nuance and reconciliation
- How these dynamics affect both sides of an estrangement equally
- The key insight: algorithms are designed to keep us engaged online, not to bring families closer together
- What it looks like to be more intentional about the content you consume
"The algorithms are designed to increase engagement in the internet, not with our adult children." - Dr. Janet Steinkamp
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⏱ CHAPTERS
00:00 Welcome
01:15 Does Social Media Cause Estrangement?
03:30 How Algorithms Amplify What We Already Believe
06:00 Echo Chambers and Confirmation Bias
08:30 Emotional Amplification Online
11:00 Why Simplified Narratives Are Dangerous for Families
13:30 Both Parents and Adult Children Are Affected
15:30 The Key Takeaway
17:00 Being Intentional About What You Consume
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DISCLAIMER
The content of this podcast is based on my professional work as an estrangement coach and my personal estrangement journey. Any examples, characters, or stories referenced are drawn from my own lived experience or represent a composite of multiple real-life situations shared with me over time.
PROFESSIONAL STANDARDS: Dr. Janet Steinkamp
When Our Adult Children Walk Away with Dr. Janet Steinkamp explores healthy communication, ethical interaction, safe family relationships, and reciprocal (appropriate) boundaries.
The podcast provides education and support for parents navigating: family estrangement, communication breakdown, emotional grief, reconciliation efforts, healthy boundary development, adult family relationship dynamics
Dr. Janet Steinkamp's work emphasizes:, emotionally healthy communication, adult accountability, ethical and safe relationship practices, mutual respect and appropriate boundaries, voluntary communication and reconnection, safe and appropriate family systems.
Listeners gain practical tools to improve communication, understand the dynamics of estrangement, and pursue emotional responsibility, compassion, and integrity.
