Are you the person everyone comes to? Someone asks you to cover a shift, join the committee, host the gathering, or help with the move, and the yes comes out before you’ve even thought about it. Then you’re driving home wondering, why did I just agree to that?
Saying yes to everything doesn’t make people appreciate you more. It can teach them your time isn’t worth much, and it can take a toll on your health, your career, and your relationships. Today I’m sharing four boundaries that help you stop saying yes to everything, even if you’re everyone’s go-to person.
Some of the things I talk about are:
The “30-minute” favor I agreed to that kept growing, and why I didn’t speak up sooner.
The surprising reason one of my therapy clients got passed over for a promotion for 10 years.
What research says about how being the go-to person affects burnout, job satisfaction, and happiness.
The simple default phrase that buys you time before the yes slips out.
Why giving a long excuse when you say no backfires, and what to say instead.
How nodding along when you disagree teaches people your agreement doesn’t mean anything.
What “role creep” is, and how to spot it at work and at home.
Why feeling guilty doesn’t mean you did something wrong.
What to do when your boundaries have slipped and it feels too late to set them.
Related Episodes
49 — 7 Boundary Mistakes That Damage Relationships
218 — 3 Steps to Building Boundaries That Stick So You Can Reclaim Your Time and Energy
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