Should I Stay or Go? How Somatic Healing Saved Her Marriage, with Becky Aste

If you're stuck in the question of whether to stay or go, anxious, exhausted, and wondering why your partner isn't doing the work, this conversation is for you. I sat down with Becky Aste, trauma-informed marriage coach, somatic practitioner, CEO of I Do Breakthrough, and host of the Your Breakthrough Blueprint Podcast, who took her own marriage from the brink of divorce to thriving after a decade of trying every mainstream modality.

Becky shares the story of the "chase and run" dance she and her husband were locked in, why ten years of talk therapy, books, and couples counseling gave her a lot of language but very little change, and what finally shifted when she started working from the body up. We talk about how to tell the difference between replay and reality when you're triggered, why you can change a relational dynamic even when your partner isn't on board, how to work with resentment, and why codependency may have an expiration date as an identity. Becky also walks through simple, practical tools you can use on your own, in your own room, starting today. You don't have to figure out the answer from your head. Your body knows more than you've been allowed to trust.

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• Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

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Top Episode Quotes:

1. "A lot of language, not a lot of change." - Becky Aste

2. "Is there an actual bear in the room, or does this just remind me of that feeling I had in my body back when there actually was a bear in the room?" - Becky Aste

3. "Resentment always points to an area of your life where you have an unspoken boundary." - Becky Aste

4. "Intuition is settled. It's not shouting. It's not loud. It's this deep, deep knowing." - Becky Aste

5. "You are not codependent. You are not anxiously attached. You're so much more than that." - Becky Aste

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