Have you ever known exactly what you wanted, said no to someone—and then found yourself explaining, apologizing or wondering if you should just change your mind?
What if the problem isn’t simply people-pleasing?
In this episode, you’ll discover:
1. Why someone being disappointed in you can trigger so much anxiety and stress—even when you’re not sure they’re actually upset.
2. How your nervous system may be influencing what you do next when someone doesn’t like your answer.
3. Why being helpful and reliable can make it especially difficult to stick with what you want when someone wants something different.
Take 12 minutes and begin noticing what happens inside you before you automatically explain, apologize or change your mind. You’re worth it.
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About the Host:
MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, is a seasoned clinician, educator, and host of the podcast Creating Midlife Calm, recognized by Maria Shriver as a “Listen of the Week.” Over the past 40 years, MJ has led more than 50,000 therapy sessions and developed the Inner Challenge mental wellness program and the Inner Challenge Master Class, practical tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and resilience taught for more than 30 years in junior high schools and at the University of Notre Dame for freshman football players. Through her podcast, teaching, and coaching, MJ helps people build calmer lives, stronger relationships, and healthier communities.
Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.
