Why They Never See It: The Psychology Behind Why Personality-Disordered People Don't Know They're the Problem

If you've ever wondered why the person who hurt you seems completely unbothered — even convinced they did nothing wrong — this episode is for you.

I break down why people with personality disorders genuinely don't experience themselves as disordered, how shame avoidance rewrites their reality, and why no amount of explaining, evidence, or emotional appeals will get them to "see it."

Understanding this isn't about giving up — it's about stopping the cycle of trying to reach someone who doesn't have the capacity to meet you there.

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