I want to share something a friend sent me. We've known each other for sixteen years now, and she wrote that I would have compliments injected into my veins if I could. I blushed reading it, because that has not always been true for me.
There was a version of me that deflected every compliment, minimized it, denied it, said something like "oh, I'm just doing my job." That version had desire, but it came from a need for validation. I always felt like I had to earn it.
After 11 years of this work, here is what I know. If you are a high-achiever, if you had emotionally unavailable or abusive parents, one of the fundamental wounds we carry is not knowing how to receive pleasure and joy. We know how to earn, we know how to give until we're empty, but receiving without justifying it feels dangerous, almost greedy. We're addicted to the struggle.
And you have to recognize how this shows up in the bedroom, through praise kink, the experience of being aroused by verbal affirmation. For the high-achiever who has spent her life performing for approval, it hits differently. I break down what it sounds like in practice, how to respond to it, why the more good sex a woman has, the more good sex she wants, and a practice I use with clients called feeling love to start building the capacity to actually receive.
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