95% of men in a recent study admitted to using at least one coercive strategy to get a woman to have sex she did not want or was not consenting to. Asking repeatedly. Using alcohol. Using force. Telling her what she wants to hear, the most used one of all.
Your body knows when this is happening to you, even if you do not have the language for it. Even if your therapist cannot pick up on it. She is smarter than that.
This is part 3 of the summer series.
We talked about slowness. PART 1 LISTEN HERE
We talked about letting go. PART 2 LISTEN HERE
We talked about being RAVISHED. PART 3 LISTEN HERE
Now we are talking about the third thing high-achieving women crave in the bedroom. Not a technique. Not a position. Being ravished. Being chosen to receive pleasure that has nothing to do with your output, your achievement, or your effort. Just because you are.
You cannot be ravished by somebody you manage. You cannot be ravished by somebody you parent. If you are tracking his appointments and reminding him what he said he would do, he cannot ravish you. Caregiving puts the brakes on desire.
Four conditions for being ravished. A yes and a no that are both free and real. Getting out of the CEO seat. An agenda of nothing but feeling good. And knowing an under-functioner can never ravish an over-functioner.
You spent your whole life earning. Now it is time to be ravished.
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