Why You Know The Destination But Fail the Journey

Most men are decent at setting goals for where they want to go. Almost nobody sets goals for who they want to be on the way there. In this episode, I break down the difference between destination goals and journey goals, share my actual present-tense vision statements across six life areas, and give you a framework for writing your own — even if you're currently in separation.

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Timestamps:

• 0:00 — Introduction
• 0:31 — Why separated men especially need this
• 2:36 — Why most men don't goal-set like they think
• 3:41 — "I never cheated, I never hit her" — why bare minimum isn't enough
• 4:51 — The "passively decent husband" trap
• 6:58 — The absence of intentionality
• 7:49 — Two types of goals: destination vs. journey
• 9:33 — Terry's story: what happens with only destination goals
• 11:30 — Vision ≠ vision boards (the sprinter analogy)
• 13:33 — How I structure goals by life area
• 16:36 — My actual vision statements (marriage, family, faith, mind)
• 20:15 — The four layers of goal setting
• 21:45 — Husband Help Group + free one-sheet resource
• 23:37 — Action steps: what to do from here
• 26:14 — Separation-specific application
• 28:17 — Should you share this with your wife?
• 30:09 — Next episode preview