Coping with Mixed Feelings of Motherhood with Psychotherapist and Coach, Ali Pember

In this episode I chat to Ali Pember, a Psychotherapist and Coach specialising in Perinatal Mental Health. Ali works mainly with mothers, encouraging them to trust their own judgement in raising their children, and focuses on dismantling the guilt, shame, stress, and anxiety that is often a product of the 'Perfect Mother Myth' and other forms of social conditioning.

In the episode we talk about:

• The difference between motherhood and mothering
• The meaning and impact of matrescence
• How to meet your needs as well as the needs of your child
• Understanding the difference between guilt and shame

Links:

Ali on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/goodenoughmamas/

Ali website: https://www.goodenoughmama.co.uk/

Pachamama on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/pachamama.london/

Pachamama website: https://pachamama-london.com/

https://www.instagram.com/p/Ce_pZatOa4h/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y%3D

Maternal Ambivalence - the key text on this is 'Torn in Two' by Rozsika Parker

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Torn-Two-Ambivalence-Rozsika-Parker/dp/1844081710

Institution of Motherhood - taken from 'Of Woman Born' by Adrienne Rich

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Woman-Born-Motherhood-Experience-Institution/dp/0393312844

Difference between Shame and Guilt - Brené Brown is a researcher in this area. Here's her definition: https://brenebrown.com/articles/2013/01/15/shame-v-guilt/