JP Miller preached a full sermon less than 24 hours after his wife died - allegedly by suicide - without taking a single question about it. Netflix gave "Death of the Pastor's Wife" three episodes but still left out a lot: the earlier conviction, the first wife whose stories echoed Mica's experience, the third wife already leading worship beside him. I watched the whole thing, went deep into the rabbit hole - and am reporting back here as I noticed some notable patterns that are showing up right now in trad wife culture too. This is a harrowing story whose theological foundations permeate our society across many angles. Trigger warnings on this one.

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Notable timestamps:

  • 00:00 The documentary, the trigger warning, and why this one couldn't wait
  • 03:10 Who Mica Miller was, and how grooming looked like devotion at 13
  • 11:20 Christian patriarchy 101: the umbrella, submission, and Bill Gothard's IBLP
  • 15:40 JP's 1999 conviction, the pardon, and the pattern nobody flagged
  • 23:15 The sermon the morning after Mica's death, and the room that stayed silent
  • 29:00 What Netflix actually left out
  • 33:30 The data: how common this is inside churches, and how few pastors are trained for it
  • 36:45 Savanna Stone, trad wives, and why there are no old trad wives
  • 41:10 Allison's mom, her dad's advice, and what she wants for her own marriage
  • 47:30 Mica's Law: where it stands, and how to actually help

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