The ick in dating, it’s that moment where someone does something completely normal, and your whole body just shuts down. A 2025 study found that 64% of people have felt it, and about a quarter ended the relationship because of it. It is a real psychological phenomenon, and it might be telling you more about yourself than the person across the table.
This episode covers:
What the ick actually is and why it happens
Red flags versus superficial triggers
How shame, projection and avoidant attachment show up as the ick
Whether we are being too picky in the wrong ways and not picky enough in the right ones
What to do when the ick shows up in your relationship
Resources:
If you want to move from reacting to reflecting, download my Conflict & Connection Guide to help you navigate those moments of disconnect.
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