If you’re a man in any kind of relationship with a woman, you need to listen to this podcast. Menopause isn't just a women's issue. And if you're in a relationship with someone going through it, this conversation might be the most useful thing you listen to all year.
Dr. Kelly Casperson is a urologist, author, and host of the You Are Not Broken podcast. She was spending her days mostly treating men's sexual health — testosterone, erectile dysfunction, all of it — and realized somewhere along the way that nobody was asking the next obvious question: what about their partners?
I first had Kelly on to talk about sex and men's health. This time we went somewhere different. After I spoke at one of her menopause seminars in Chicago, I knew we had to come back and have this conversation for the guys. Menopause is an initiation for women. What most men don't realize is that it's an initiation for them too.
We get into the biology of what's actually happening, why men check out, smother, or collapse when it shows up, what it does to libido and sex, and why this midlife passage — as uncomfortable as it gets — is one of the greatest opportunities for growth a man will ever get.
If your partner is in perimenopause or menopause — or will be — this one is required listening.
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Men – Join The UNcivilized Nation
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First episode with Dr. Kelly Casperson
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Books – You Are Not Broken | The Menopause Moment
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Chapter List:
00:00 Intro
01:29 Why Men Avoid This Conversation
10:29 Menopause Is an Initiation
15:33 The Biology of Menopause
36:19 What Men Get Wrong
38:36 The Evolution of Relationships
42:52 Male Archetypes in Relationships
43:26 The 1950s Marlboro Man
47:24 The Sensitive New Age Guy (The Nice Guy)
52:40 The Collapsed Guy
55:29 Libido, Hormones, and What Changes
57:55 How to Talk About It
59:34 The Orgasm Gap
01:02:29 Beyond Friction
01:08:12 Men — Look in the Mirror
01:15:41 One Conversation to Have This Week
01:16:40 Should You Go to the Doctor With Her?
01:20:29 Wrap Up