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Have you ever looked at your dating apps and thought, “Maybe I just need to move?”
Your location absolutely can affect your dating life. It determines who’s around you, the size of your dating pool, local dating culture, relationship goals, competition, and even how easy it is to actually go on a date.
But moving doesn’t automatically fix your dating problems.
In this episode of The Realistic Romantic, Drew asks a bigger question: Is the problem actually your city, or is it you?
Plus, Drew answers a Dear Drew about getting from the first date to the second without feeling like you’re chasing.
In This Episode
• How your city affects your dating pool
• Drew’s experience dating in San Antonio vs. Miami
• The best states for singles in 2026
• Dating opportunity vs. relationship opportunity
• How local culture affects dating and relationships
• Signs your city might actually be limiting your dating life
• What moving can and can’t fix
• How to test another dating market before relocating
• Dear Drew: How to nudge someone toward a second date
Chapters
00:00 Is Your City Ruining Your Dating Life?
01:56 My Story: “You're Too Pretty to Live Here!”
04:22 San Antonio vs Miami Dating: Different Cities, Different Problems
10:19 What Are the Best States for Singles in 2026?
14:10 Dating Opportunity vs Relationship Opportunity
18:33 Is the Dating Problem You or Your City?
24:01 Should You Move to Improve Your Dating Life?
27:38 Dear Drew: Nudging Your Romantic Interest
30:07 Dating Homework
References & Resources
📊 Best & Worst States for Singles 2026 | WalletHub https://wallethub.com/edu/best-states-for-singles/31667
🗽 The Best and Worst Cities in America to Be Single In | New York Post https://nypost.com/2026/08/29/opinion/the-best-and-worst-cities-in-america-to-be-single-in/
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Do you think your city is helping or hurting your dating life? And would you ever move somewhere new to improve your chances of finding love? Let me know in the comments.
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