Catching the Shame That's Been Running Your Life

Join Jeffrey and Steve for a free live webinar on shame, Tuesday, October 20, at drjeffreyrutstein.com/links.

What if some of the things you've always called your personality are really ways you learned to make yourself small?

In this episode, Jeffrey and Steve get into shame. Steve brings his own story: one offhand comment from Jeffrey that showed him something he'd been doing his whole life, something he'd always thought was just who he was.

Shame rarely feels like shame. It feels like being easy-going. Not needing much. Getting everything just right. Saying yes before anyone finishes asking. For most of us it has worked for years, so well that we'd call it one of our better qualities. Jeffrey says it plainly about his own people-pleasing: it was nice for everyone else. It wasn't so nice for him. This episode is about what shame looks like when it's hiding in plain sight, and why trying harder on ourselves never quite gets us out of it. 

Want to go deeper? Join Jeffrey and Steve for a free live webinar on how shame hides and how it shapes us across a lifetime. Tuesday, October 20, 8 pm Eastern / 5 pm Pacific. Register at drjeffreyrutstein.com/links.

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