In this episode of the Amoraea Podcast, I sit down with Amaya Shiva — sex educator, relationship coach, tantrika, and host of Your Sexual Revolution — for one of the most honest conversations I've had on this show.
We get into why pleasure-based sex matters more than performance-based sex, and why the real key to a great sexual connection isn't the orgasm — it's nervous system calm and presence. Amaya walks through her "containment" practice for dropping into your body before intimacy, how to explore kinks and new experiences without overwhelming yourself or your partner, and why crystal-clear communication about boundaries is one of the sexiest things you can bring to a relationship.
We also dig into some bigger questions I get asked constantly as the founder of a matchmaking app: How should attachment styles factor into who you date? Should anxiously attached people wait to have sex? Is casual sex ever healthy? What's actually going on with polyamory in Austin's conscious community? And why are so many people in "conscious" spaces chronically single?
Amaya doesn't hold back — on nervous system science, on dating multiple people at once, on why "checklists" keep good partners off your radar, and on what it really means to advocate for yourself (as a man or a woman) without losing your confidence or your feminine/masculine polarity in the process.
This one's candid, funny, and genuinely useful if you're navigating dating, attachment wounds, or just want better sex and better relationships.
About Amoraea: Amoraea is a psychology-forward matchmaking app that matches people based on attachment style, values, and compatibility — grounded in research from the Gottman Institute and others. It's exclusive to people who've done the work, with a required interview before you can join.
Links mentioned:
Amoraea: amoraea.com
Amaya Shiva (work with her / book a consult): amayashiva.com
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