Natalie Davis was a straight-and-narrow, rule-following lawyer mom who married her college boyfriend and fully expected to live happily ever after inside the white-picket-fence monogamy model.
Then her husband cheated—and eventually asked whether they could start having sex with other people.
What followed was messy, painful, liberating, awkward, sexy, and completely life-altering. Natalie is now the author of Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory, a radically candid memoir about surviving infidelity, dismantling everything she thought she knew about marriage, and discovering a version of herself she never knew existed.
You know...like being a hot slut on a train.
In this episode:
- Why Natalie never questioned monogamy before her husband’s affair
- The humiliation of being cheated on—and why she couldn’t bring herself to tell her friends
- How infidelity became an unexpected doorway into consensual non-monogamy
- The difference between choosing polyamory and being polyamorous under duress
- Why staying after betrayal doesn’t make someone a coward or a doormat
- Watching your partner put effort into dates with someone else and realizing he never dated you that way
- Why people are sometimes more comfortable with secret cheating than consensual non-monogamy
- Natalie’s first swinger party
- What swinging taught her about boundaries, desire, and speaking up
- Falling in love with another partner for the first time
- Coming out as polyamorous to family, coworkers, and her child
- Why non-monogamous people still need legal protection from discrimination
- The public-sex adventures that transformed a responsible lawyer mom into a hot slut on a train
- Roadhead, parking-garage blowjobs, sexting, roleplay, and discovering what turns you on in your forties
- Why consensual secrecy can deliver the thrill of cheating without the betrayal
- Natalie’s current liminal dating era
- What it’s really like living in a resident V with her husband and metamour
- The difference between a V and a throuple
- The difference between a living arrangement that feels peaceful and one filled with constant low-level tension
- Why relationships don’t have to last forever to have been successful
- And why Natalie’s story isn’t finished until she’s dead
READ SAYING YES: MY ADVENTURES IN POLYAMORY:
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Website: https://nataliedavisadventures.com/
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Polyamory Today: https://medium.com/polyamory-today
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Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy: https://www.open-love.org/
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