What if personal growth isn't always about becoming more?
What if sometimes it's about becoming more fully who you already are?
Brian Miller is the president of Coach Approach Ministries and founder of P3 Leadership, where his work focuses on presence, partnership, purpose, and helping people grow through what he calls “drawing out rather than pouring in.”
That simple idea took our conversation somewhere much deeper.
We live in a world constantly telling us we're not enough.
Be more productive. Get in better shape. Make more money. Grow your audience. Improve your performance. Become 1% better.
Brian made an observation that stopped me: sometimes that message can reinforce the very belief we're trying to overcome.
You're not enough yet.
So we explored another possibility.
What if growth isn't always about pouring more information, advice, habits, and expectations into ourselves?
What if we need someone to help draw out what's already there?
At one point, Brian turned that question toward me and asked what characteristics are essentially “Bobby Shelton.”
That led to a realization I've been wrestling with recently.
I'm 6'5", but I've spent much of my life trying to make myself smaller. I've heard some version of “don't be so loud, don't talk so much, don't be so big.”
Maybe I've internalized the belief that taking up less space makes more room for everyone else.
Brian challenged that assumption.
Perhaps showing up fully doesn't take space away from others. Maybe being bigger gives other people permission to be bigger too.
We also talk about advice, coaching, podcasting, comparison, intrinsic motivation, false beliefs, confidence, authenticity, and why knowing what to do rarely creates lasting change.
Brian's challenge at the end is beautifully simple:
Figure out who you are.
Challenge the false beliefs telling you that person isn't enough.
And become comfortable being the best version of you
Connect with Brian:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brian-miller-coach-approach/
Website: https://coachapproachministries.org/
