#136 When Your Master Dies: MJ's Girl on Love, Loss & 21-Years of M/s Relationship

What happens to your identity as a slave when the Master you've belonged to for 21 years dies?

In this episode I'm joined by Kim — MJ's Girl, who shares the story of her 21-year Master/slave relationship with Master Joe, and what happened to love, submission and identity after his death.

We explore:

• What 21 years in a Master/slave relationship taught Kim about love and submission.
• The difference between being a slave and a submissive.
• Why this fiercely independent woman chose to give one particular man her submission.
• The psychology of collaring, ownership and erotic identity.
• What happens to a slave identity after the death of a Master.
• How continuing bonds may help us understand carrying a BDSM relationship forward through grief.

Research article: Internalized versus externalized continuing bonds: Relations to grief, trauma, attachment, openness to experience, and posttraumatic growth.

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Stay perverted,

Emma

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