#135 The Psychology of Ownership: Total Power Exchange, Erotic Identity & the Desire to Own with RednBlack

What happens when the kink you're having is no longer the kink you actually want?

In this episode I'm joined by RednBlack to explore the psychology of ownership, Total Power Exchange, sadism and erotic identity.

After years within kink, Red experienced a moment that changed the direction of her erotic life: driving home from a fetish event and realising that pickup play was leaving her feeling empty. That realisation forced a different question — what did she actually desire?

We explore:

• The psychology of ownership and Total Power Exchange (TPE).
• Why kinky experiences can still leave us feeling erotically unfulfilled.
• Red's journey through dominance, sadism and deeper power exchange.
• Leather culture, identity and the history and meaning carried through coloured hankies.
• The tension between being an academic and openly kinky.
• Why different people can be drawn to BDSM for very different psychological reasons.

Research article: The Psychology of Kink: A Cross-Sectional Survey Study Investigating the Roles of Sensation Seeking and Coping Style in BDSM-Related Interests.

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Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

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