This week, it’s just Martin in the hot seat for the final episode of the Summer Series, and he’s asking a question that might hit a little too close to home:
Why does saying someone’s name feel so damn awkward?
You know the feeling. You’re talking to someone, you know exactly what their name is, but actually saying it out loud feels... intimate. Cringey. Wrong. Like you're crossing a line or creating a weird level of intimacy that wasn’t there before. You'd rather just say "hey" or "thanks" and move on.
Well, it turns out there’s a name for that! It's called Alexinomia – the discomfort or difficulty using other people’s names in direct conversation.
In this episode, Martin unpacks:
- Why saying someone's name can feel like a social landmine.
- How neurodivergence, social anxiety, and childhood experiences shape this.
- Why your brain treats names differently depending on who they belong to.
- The weird emotional baggage loaded into one tiny word.
Is it easier to use a nickname? Do you only use names when you're angry? Has your own name been ruined by years of being shouted in trouble? Martin explores all of it.
And here's a challenge for you: Pay attention this week. When you speak to someone directly, consciously use their name. Notice how it feels. Uncomfortable? Natural? Somewhere in between? Drop a comment and let us know!
💬 This week's question: Whose name do you find it hardest to say? And whose is the easiest?
🛑 Important Announcement: Next week is Paul's last episode. We're saying a bittersweet goodbye to one half of ADHDville after 140+ episodes. Please join us for the farewell chat – it's going to be a special one.
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Theme music was written by Freddie Philips and played by Martin West. All other music by Martin West.
Please remember: This is an entertainment podcast about ADHD and does not substitute for individualized advice from qualified health professionals.
