This conversation conveys something that I've been trying to find the words and way to describe to you all for awhile. It was my personal experience first, then I started running groups that set the stage for this healing to happen, and now I keep watching it work time and time again.
Because my God, don't we all want to know what actually rewires an anxious or avoidant attachment style, and do we really have to so that that healing in the hardest relationships first?
Nope. This conversation with Libby, another incredible mama that has been engaged in this work with me, unpacks the neuroscience of mirror neurons and why an asynchronous, voice note based women's group can work like an attachment laboratory, giving the nervous system a low stakes place to practice safety before returning to the relationships that matter most. The heart of it traces how shame gets deposited in the absence of a loving witness, and how being seen by other women, without social obligation or real time pressure, teaches the body that connection is safe again.
From there it moves into the harder pivot many women face: going from self-aware to self-honoring, learning that having needs isn't a betrayal of the people who depend on them, and that healing doesn't require perfection, only practice, trying, and being witnessed along the way.
What emerges is a picture of women as natural self-healers, capable of holding space for each other's rawest truths and handing back both the mirror and the medicine. It's an invitation to trade isolation for a container where wisdom gets modeled, tried, and passed along, the way women always have. Libby's experience, and ways of explaining her transformation are absolute gold, and I'm so grateful to share this conversation with you all.
Safe Inside is open for Fall, we start September 1st, link is in my bio if this works speaks to you, sparks something in you, and you're curious about what's possible when you put yourself in the way of this process.
