Have you ever caught yourself thinking, I know better than this — so why do I keep doing it? Whether you stay up too late scrolling or you snap at people you leave, we all do things that don't help sometimes.
Most of us assume we need to create a lifestyle overhaul to fix the issue. But my guest today says that's exactly why so many of us stay stuck. He says a series of tiny shifts is the key to breaking free from emotional loops.
My guest is Dr. Elisha Goldstein, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Emotional Longevity podcast. His new book is Tiny Shifts.
Some of the things we discuss are:
What an emotional loop is — and how the four parts of it (thoughts, emotions, sensations, actions) trap you before you notice
Why your most convincing thoughts are often the least accurate — and how your brain evolved to make it that way
Why overhauling your life almost never works — and what "tiny shifts" do instead
The 4R method and how Dr. Goldstein used it in real time when he got scammed on Facebook
Why overthinking is a nervous system problem
Why shame is baked into our culture and how to work with it instead of getting trapped by it
The "slippery moment" when one loop turns into another and you assume nothing's working
Why healing your childhood wounds doesn't require years of therapy
The Therapist's Take: My top three strategies for making tiny shifts starting today
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