In this episode, Anna sits down with Kati Morton, LMFT, bestselling author and one of the internet’s most trusted mental-health educators. Kati has spent more than a decade helping millions of people understand their emotions, navigate trauma, and break unhealthy patterns. Her latest book, Why Do I Keep Doing This?, unpacks the emotional habits we fall into — and what it actually takes to change them from the inside out.
In this episode, we explore:
• What inspired her new book
How Kati sees “doing this” — the patterns, habits, and emotional cycles we repeat — showing up in her own life and in her clients.
• The truth that even therapists get stuck
Why mental-health professionals aren’t immune to autopilot patterns… and the early signs Kati looks for in herself when she’s drifting away from alignment.
• Burnout cycles & nervous-system loops
Especially for sensitive creatives, caretakers, and over-functioners:
o why burnout often comes from emotional over-responsibility
o how chronic self-abandonment masquerades as “being capable”
o the biological and psychological loops that keep people stuck
o how to tell the difference between capacity and compulsion
• What it means to shift safely
Kati shares the gentlest places to begin — including micro-bids for rest, nervous-system resets, interrupting old narratives, and slowly rebuilding trust with yourself so change doesn’t feel threatening.
• Why shame blocks every kind of healing
And what happens when we bring curiosity instead of self-criticism to our patterns.
• Practical tools for coming back to yourself
From checking in with your body before your to-do list, to noticing emotional “flare alerts,” to using supportive structure without falling into perfectionism.
This conversation is validating, clarifying, honest, and deeply hopeful.
If you’re tired of your own loops, this one’s for you.
Connect with Kati
• Website: https://www.katimorton.com/
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/katimorton
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katimorton/
• Her books, including Why Do I Keep Doing This?, Are U OK?, and Traumatized
Connect with Anna
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anna_holtzman/
• Website: https://www.annaholtzman.com/
• Free workshop — Let Yourself Be Seen: https://www.annaholtzman.com/beseen
