#150: On today's episode, Jess Girod, creator, season 27 contestant of The Bachelor, and season 9 contestant of Bachelor in Paradise, jumps on the podcast for a conversation about heartbreak, self-worth, childhood wounds, and the relationship patterns we unknowingly carry into adulthood. Jess opens up about growing up in a household filled with conflict, the fear of repeating her parents' relationship, and the realization that she was settling—not just in dating, but in life.
Through stories of heartbreak, healing, situationships, and self-discovery, Jess shares how some of her most painful experiences became the catalyst for deeper growth. The girls unpack self-abandonment, fear of intimacy, closure, emotional availability, dating standards, and what it actually means to build a relationship rooted in authenticity rather than familiarity. This conversation is a reminder that healing isn't about finding the right person—it's about becoming someone who no longer abandons themselves.
The girls get into:
- fear of repeating your parents' relationship
- growing up around conflict and how childhood wounds shape adult relationships
- why we often settle for what feels familiar
- self-abandonment and losing yourself in relationships
- navigating betrayal, heartbreak, and relationship trauma
- why heartbreak can become one of life's greatest teachers
- fear of intimacy and emotional vulnerability
- learning that authentic love requires authenticity from yourself first
- why closure isn't something another person can give you
- situationships, rejection, and unanswered questions
- relationship patterns and breaking cycles that no longer serve you
- self-worth while single
- the pressure women feel to find a relationship
- dating standards, emotional availability, and self-respect
- why the right relationship won't require convincing, chasing, or forcing
- choosing hope after heartbreak
This episode is for anyone healing from heartbreak, working through childhood wounds, questioning a relationship, struggling with self-worth, or trying to break old relationship patterns. If you've ever found yourself settling, seeking closure, abandoning your needs, or wondering why the same lessons keep showing up in your relationships, this conversation will remind you that healing begins when you stop looking for validation outside of yourself and start trusting what you already know.
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