Quick gut check:
If I recorded your self-talk today, would you want to play it back for someone you love?
Last week, I shared more of my own imperfect healing journey — and how our earlier experiences can continue shaping the way we think, feel, and relate to the people around us.
But sometimes those patterns are hiding somewhere incredibly ordinary:
In the words we use every day.
The words running quietly through our minds.
The things we say when we're frustrated.
The stories we tell about ourselves, our relationships, and what's possible for us.
Because language doesn't just describe our experience.
It can shape it.
And the beautiful thing about language is that it's one of the most accessible places to begin creating change.
So in this week's episode, I'm giving you a simple exercise to uncover some of the hidden patterns in your own language.
You'll free-write for just a few minutes and then come back to what you've written with gentle curiosity — looking at three things: whether your language leans toward yourself or connection, whether you tend toward black-and-white thinking or nuance, and whether your words reflect personal choice or a feeling that you have no choice at all.
No judgment. No trying to fix yourself. Just notice.
Because sometimes changing the way we experience our lives can begin with something as small as changing the words we use to describe them.
Episode Timestamps
01:01 — A quick check-in with your inner world
01:40 — Why the words you use are such a powerful lever for change
03:26 — The simple free-writing exercise
05:00 — Lens #1: “I, me, mine” vs. language of connection
06:06 — Lens #2: Black-and-white thinking vs. nuance
07:24 — Lens #3: “I have to” vs. language of personal power
10:44 — How to assess your overall language patterns
11:39 — The connection between rumination, anxiety, and depression
14:19 — Why noticing these patterns is actually good news
15:50 — Your invitation to try the exercise yourself
When you do the exercise, don't try to change everything at once.
Simply notice where you tend to lean.
Then choose one of these three areas and experiment with shifting your language this week.
See what happens when “I have to” becomes “I'm choosing to.”
When “this is just how it is” becomes a little more curious.
When certainty makes room for possibility.
Small changes in language can open the door to much bigger changes in how we see ourselves and the world around us.
Want to go deeper?
Changing our language can be a powerful starting point. But sometimes the words we use are connected to deeper emotional patterns and old protective responses that have been with us for years.
That's the deeper work we do inside Untriggerable.
We work with the mind, the nervous system, and our relationships to understand what's underneath our triggers and build new ways of responding — not just when life is easy, but in the moments that challenge us most.
If you'd like to learn more about Untriggerable and continue this work with us, join us on our Circle platform:
Join the Untriggerable community on Circle
And if you try this week's exercise, I'd love to hear what you discover.
What's one phrase you're choosing to shift this week?
