People ask me all the time whether they are the high-conflict co-parent. In this episode I explain why I think that's the wrong question to ask, and why the parents who worry about being the problem are rarely the ones causing it. When one parent keeps violating the order and the other keeps responding, the one who reacts usually ends up with the label.
I talk about how the legal system reads the written record before it understands the relationship, and what that means for how you write to a controlling co-parent. I walk through habits I see in people coming out of coercive control, like relitigating old incidents in today's message, saying a question went unanswered when the answer is sitting in the shared calendar, refusing reasonable proposals on principle, and turning down parenting time they spent months asking for. I also share a simple formula for replying to bait and explain what belongs in your private timeline versus the co-parenting app. Near the end, I get into why fighting child support can hurt your case even when there are plenty of assets on both sides.
The last four minutes of the episode cover my coaching and courses, so returning listeners and current clients can skip that part.
Find coaching and resources at high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com and emotionalabusecoach.com.
*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*
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