Dave waited fifteen years for his ex-wife to come back. He watched her marry someone else, watched that marriage end, and still thought: now she'll realize. She never did. Fifteen years gone, waiting for something that was never going to happen. That's what denial can cost you — and the first step out of it is smaller and simpler than you'd think.
This season walks through the book 10-Week Divorce Recovery: The Proven Step-by-Step Roadmap, one chapter at a time — the same method that's helped people let go and move on for more than 40 years.
In this episode, Kevin Van Liere reframes denial as what it actually is: not a character flaw or weakness, but your brain's shock absorber — rationing a reality too painful to absorb all at once. You'll learn the many faces denial wears (paralysis, frantic motion, avoidance, numbness, jumping into someone new, and Dave's endless waiting), the crucial difference between healthy pacing and destructive denial, and the three honest questions that tell you which one you're in. Then the shift: one simple sentence to say every time you catch yourself thinking "I can't believe this is happening" — the sentence that lets reality in so you can finally start to heal.
Denial is the second of five obstacles between you and the foundation of the pyramid. You can't climb until you face what's real.
Find out where you actually are. Take the free Divorce Recovery Scorecard — 30 questions, five minutes, instant results. It's the same baseline we use to measure real progress. You'll hear scores come up throughout this season, so get yours and follow along: https://rebuilders.net/drs?utm_source=podcast
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And when you're ready to walk through the full process start to finish, it comes three ways — online from anywhere, in person with a local group, or as a week-long immersion retreat.
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