New paint. A full calendar. A drink to take the edge off. A trip scheduled so you're not home when the decree arrives. Every one of these helps — a little. And every one of them is coping, not healing. This is the episode about the difference, and why "just move on" was never actually a plan.
This season walks through the book 10-Week Divorce Recovery: The Proven Step-by-Step Roadmap, one chapter at a time — the same method that's helped people let go and move on for more than 40 years.
In this episode — the last of Part 1 — Kevin Van Liere lays his own coping playbook bare: the redecorated bedroom, the bourbon, the 2 a.m. video games, the escape to Mexico, the ten-month relationship that helped him survive but never let him heal. You'll meet Diane, who buried herself in work until the promotions couldn't outrun the grief, and others who tried the gym, a new city, an epic trip — and found their questions waiting for them when they got home. The hard, freeing insight underneath all of it: you can't move on until you let go, and you can't let go by staying busy enough to avoid the pain.
This episode closes the case on what doesn't work. Next episode, the book turns to what does.
Find out where you actually are. Take the free Divorce Recovery Scorecard — 30 questions, five minutes, instant results. It's the same baseline we use to measure real progress. You'll hear scores come up throughout this season, so get yours and follow along: Rebuilders.net/drs
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And when you're ready to walk through the full process start to finish, it comes three ways — online from anywhere, in person with a local group, or as a week-long immersion retreat.
If this episode helped, follow the show so the next chapter finds you — and if you know someone going through a divorce, send it their way. It might be exactly what they need right now.
