this week’s video is a deeper dive into the first pillar of self-esteem - the practice of living consciously!
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem x Being Hot & Having Fun Sentence Completion Exercises
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The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden
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01:44 - the first pillar of self-esteem
04:42 - bringing awareness to our internal world
07:32 - the practice of living consciously
08:55 - radical self-acceptance for the human condition
09:13 - you are the creator
09:38 - being responsible towards reality
10:23 - self-esteem is the reputation we acquire with ourselves
10:40 - your opinion of yourself is more important than other people’s opinion of you
11:45 - living consciously to overcome cringe
12:25 - dealing with shame around envy and judgement
12:43 - acting on what one sees and knows
13:14 - creating mental space for your own unhingedness
14:11 - being in the state appropriate to what you are doing
14:57 - your purposes and values dictate the standard of selection
16:00 - living responsibly towards reality
16:10 - wishes, fears and denials do not alter facts
17:57 - using your feelings to point to important facts rather than confusing feelings with facts
18:19 - changing your relationship with your emotions
19:04 - jealousy in friendships case study
20:47 - alchemising jealousy into inspiration
21:32 - what you perceive, what you interpret it to mean, how you feel about it
23:41 - fear and pain being treated as signals
23:51 - the earnest intention to be conscious
23:54 - adjusting your actions to your goals
24:18 - my first loyalty is to truth, not to making myself right
24:24 - a lifelong commitment to learning
24:38 - the willingness to create win-win relationships
25:37 - a desire to understand our full context
26:58 - internal and external awareness are two different skill sets
28:34 - when you reach an impasse and need a guide
30:12 - who is defining “being hot & having fun” in your life?
30:48 - do i know what i’m doing when i like myself vs when i don’t?
31:06 - give yourself the opportunity to notice
32:33 - i have to think that the practice is worthwhile
34:59 - which actions are producing desired results and which aren’t?
35:32 - notice what’s exciting vs what’s draining
36:23 - accept that other people’s interpretation of reality could be different to yours
37:22 - your values come from your experience, you can mistakenly draw irrational conclusions from your experience
38:54 - sidenote on addictions
40:48 - consciousness and the body
41:42 - train yourself to notice your thoughts
41:12 - freeing the body contributes to freeing the mind
44:22 - an orientation towards life that exists on a continuum
45:24 - looking to where pain and frustrations are
46:13 - garden analogy
