youtube episode: https://youtu.be/YtpeBQxoROo
when you think you'll never be in a toxic relationship/friendship/job again and you walk away from one and into another ... lmao
00:00 intro
01:06 - empty space is unnatural and nature will find a way to fill it
01:42 - acknowledging that you are weak in order to become strong
03:09 - flop and slay coexist
04:09 - its not just the goal its also the management of the consequences that come with achieving it
04:41 - how assumptions create blind spots
05:42 - psychological audit
06:29 - anxiety vs self-trust
07:10 - notice when you are filing in gaps for space that only time & experience can fill
08:12 - empower yourself in your decision making
08:26 - seeking win-win relationships
08:53 - learning to sit with disappointment and move on instead of ruminating
10:58 - getting out of toxic dynamics
11:55 - non-negotiable hobbies & trying new things
13:10 - confronting & integrating pain vs running or avoiding it
13:51 - circumstantial change vs spiritual transformation
14:21 - you need a different approach if you want a different outcome
14:58 - actions speak louder than words!!!
15:15 - e.g. when an ex reaches out
16:44 - act according to the outcome that you want
16:57 - not responding is a response
17:04 - the person who cares the least, wins
18:16 - it doesn’t always feel toxic at first
18:53 - learning to self-regulate and pace connection
19:09 - being open to being proven wrong and trusting yourself to make difficult decisions
19:23 - always have something that you care about protecting that is your responsibility to maintain
19:41 - optimize to enjoy your life to the fullest
20:03 - learn to enjoy the challenge of protecting what you care about
20:21 - when you try and evade responsibility, you open yourself up to chaos
21:07 - learning to notice guilt & shame and observing rather than repressing or avoiding
23:00 - being honest with yourself when you cbf something and moving on
23:42 - when are you pursuing something from a place of ego vs real compatibility
24:28 - everyone’s needs are different
25:54 - the WILL to extend yourself
