Send Gemma a message
Have you ever found yourself giving more and more to someone, hoping that eventually they'll realise how much you mean to them and want a relationship with you?
In this episode of Healing for Love, I'm responding to a listener who shares her painful experience of a situationship following the end of a long marriage marked by controlling and abusive behaviour.
Despite recognising that this new man was emotionally unavailable, dismissive of her needs and unwilling to offer a committed relationship, she continued to invest in him, hoping that if she loved and helped him enough, things would change.
When the relationship ended, she was left struggling with feelings of inadequacy, rejection and being unwanted.
In this episode, I explore:
- Why we can recognise that someone isn't good for us and still feel devastated when they reject us.
- How childhood experiences of emotional dismissal and conditional acceptance can shape our adult relationships.
- The role of the Defectiveness, Abandonment, Emotional Deprivation and Self-Sacrifice Schemas.
- Why some women feel they need to earn love by giving, helping and accommodating.
- How old relationship patterns can keep us attached to emotionally unavailable partners.
- Why another person's inability or unwillingness to love you is not a measure of your worth.
I also discuss the importance of recognising the different parts of ourselves that become activated in relationships, and why understanding your Love Template is such an important part of breaking recurring patterns.
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