You have friends… so why do you still feel lonely?
Friendships are more important than ever in adulthood, but they become increasingly hard to make and maintain. But we’re in a real loneliness epidemic where most adults feel unseen, alone, and disconnected *even though* they have lots of connections in their lives.
The real reason no one’s talking about? The “depth gap” that keeps us from being truly vulnerable and connected. Because the problem isn't always that we need more friends… it's that we don't feel known by the people in our lives.
In this episode, we're diving into the psychology of modern friendship with psychologist Dr. Elisabeth Crain. From attachment styles and friendship patterns to reciprocity, resentment, and friendship breakups, this interview is a roadmap for healthier, more fulfilling friendships.
Tune in to hear:
• Why adult friendships are harder to build and maintain
• The "Depth Gap" and why loneliness is often a quality issue, not a quantity issue
• How fear of vulnerability and rejection impact intimacy
• Attachment styles in friendships
• Understanding your friendship blueprint and relationship patterns
• Fast-burn versus slow-burn friendships… why pacing matters
• Managing reciprocity, imbalance and resentment
• The importance of healthy criticism
• Tuning into your body’s reaction to people
• The art of discernment in picking the right friendships
• Why friendships fracture in adulthood
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