More than half of marriages end in divorce… so why do we still choose to tie the knot?
In this episode we get profound relationship advice from a perspective you might not expect… a world-renowned divorce lawyer and authority on relationships. Because there’s a lot that we can reverse engineer from someone who has spent their career witnessing endings.
We're joined by James Sexton, America's top divorce lawyer, and bestselling author of How to Stay in Love and How Not To Fuck Up Your Marriage. After more than 20 years helping couples navigate the end of their marriages, James has rare insight into what actually causes relationships to fail, and how we can build stronger, healthier, lasting love before the start.
We cover the real reason people divorce, the biggest mistakes that end marriages, what the red flags are that a relationship might be unsalvageable, emotional disconnection and the toxicity of social media for couples, and advice for anyone about to get married.
In this moving conversation, we also explore the deeper philosophy of grief and impermanence, and what we can learn about building more connected relationships from someone who has witnessed a lifetime of endings.
Whether you're dating, engaged, married, navigating relationship challenges, or simply want to become a better partner, this episode is packed with practical relationship advice that every couple (and anyone hoping to get married one day) should hear.
Tune in to hear:
- The main causes of divorce after 20+ years in family law
- How we “lose the plot” in relationships
- The red flags that a relationship is breaking down or beyond repair
- Why couples’ connections “go bankrupt slowly, then all at once"
- James Sexton’s "Hit Send Now" philosophy for honest communication
- Check-in rituals and habits to stay connected and avoid drifting
- Why couples experience different versions of the same relationship (we’re unreliable narrators!)
- How social media can be damaging in modern relationships
- What grief work and divorce law taught James about love, gratitude, and impermanence
- The most important advice James gives to anyone about to get married
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https://www.youtube.com/@sextonshow/videos
https://www.nycdivorces.com/
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