Justine Cross is a professional dominatrix, dungeon owner, educator, and sex worker advocate who grew up in the tri-state area where she actually received surprisingly comprehensive sex education growing up between private and public schools, something she credits with shaping how she thinks about sex, consent, and power dynamics today.
In this episode we talk about how someone becomes a professional dominatrix, what actually happens inside a BDSM dungeon, and why kink spaces are often far more structured, communicative, and consent-focused than most people expect. We also get into power dynamics, submission, community, play parties, and the difference between what people imagine BDSM is and what it actually looks like in real life.
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Website: www.LosAngelesDominatrix.com
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Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon
- STORY 1: Younger sister is a tradwife and I secretly set up an investment account in case she needs to leave her husband. Do I tell her?
- STORY 2: Am I the jerk for sleeping with my colleague after my husband left me?
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Episode Cheat Sheet
02:18 Growing up in the tri-state area with surprisingly comprehensive sex education
05:07 Early ideas about sex, consent, and communication
08:36 How Justine became a professional dominatrix
12:11 What actually happens inside a professional BDSM dungeon
15:42 Negotiation, boundaries, and why kink requires clear consent
19:55 The psychology of domination and submission
24:18 Why people are drawn to power dynamics and BDSM
28:43 Debunking myths about dominatrices and kink culture
32:27 The difference between fantasy kink and real BDSM practice
37:06 Community, play parties, and finding kink-friendly spaces
41:15 Running a dungeon and the logistics behind the scenes
46:02 Why BDSM spaces can feel safer than mainstream dating culture
50:18 Humor, curiosity, and why kink doesn't have to be dark or scary
55:31 What people misunderstand most about BDSM and domination
