Alyssa Mei Lue is a traveling burlesque and circus performer, Playboy model, and podcaster from Riverside, California, where her formal sex education consisted of one vague classroom video, a heavily religious upbringing, and getting married at 21 before she had ever seen, touched, or had sex with a penis.
In this episode, we talk about performance, survival, and what it actually means to be a dangerous woman. Alyssa shares how she got into modeling during quarantine, why modeling can be just as risky as live performance, and how learning boundaries in those industries changed the way she moves through the world. We also get into catcalling, self-defense, jiu-jitsu, gun safety, growing up in Riverside, and the reality of having almost no real sex education before marriage.
Want more of Alyssa and I? Catch our bonus Reddit story episode over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck
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Where to find Alyssa:
Instagram: @alyssameiliu
Podcast: Bend Her Backwards
Where to find Arielle:
Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck
TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck
Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon
- STORY 1: Yesterday my brother told me he was in love with me.
- STORY 2: My wife (33f) is denying we're married and wants to be called my 'girlfriend'… I'm confused
- STORY 3: WIBTAH for breaking up with my gf for humiliating me?
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Episode Cheat Sheet:
00:20 Meet Alyssa Mei Lue (burlesque performer & model)
02:27 Getting back into performing and winning The Play's Got Talent
04:32 Live performance challenges and adapting on stage
08:46 Why burlesque is more exhausting than aerial performance
10:51 Presence, performance, and why it matters in sex
13:10 Modeling risks, boundaries, and safety
17:44 How Alyssa started modeling during quarantine
19:59 The psychology of angles, posing, and "perfect" photos
24:18 Catcalling, safety, and walking alone as a woman
33:39 Why women stay guarded and how quickly things can escalate
35:54 Self-defense, jiu-jitsu, and learning how to fight back
46:56 Growing up in Riverside and building resilience
50:03 Getting married before having sex (and what happened)
55:52 Why sex education fails so many people
57:06 Pleasure, autonomy, and rebellion
59:06 Patreon preview: Reddit relationship stories
