How to Know If You Dated a Predator - Peter Salerno & Deb Lieberman

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00:00 In This Episode
00:29 Introducing
00:41 How to Reflect on Relationships
03:01 Intrusive Thoughts and Traumatic Relationships
05:00 The Confusion of Interpreting Manipulation
06:34 Categorizing Dangerous Behavior
-Previous interview with Peter: https://youtu.be/3NIPDxiiRrs
07:00 The Precursor to Healthy Emotional Processing
10:28 Evolution and the Superstimulus of Love Bombing
13:21 The Value of Self-Love
-Interview with Harry Reis: https://youtu.be/PKbyOtxvwJM
15:04 How Manipulation Damages the Brain
17:39 Successful People Can Be Targeted
19:40 Intelligent People Can Be Manipulated
21:37 Evolution and the Opportunities for Manipulation
22:35 Traits of People Who Are Targeted
-Women Who Love Psychopaths: https://youtu.be/i3wk1RdfHiI
25:37 Agreeableness and Valuing Others
30:03 Know You're Traits. Don't Pathologize Them.
31:05 People Who Do Not Value Others
32:59 The Goal: Recovering from Reality Distortion
35:55 Introducing the Triangle Tool
39:26 Triangle: Impression, Behavior, and Explanation
43:09 The Weight of Confusion and Cognitive Dissonance
44:28 How to Evaluate the Behavior of Others
48:10 Graphic: Heider's Balance Theory (Social Psychology)
48:58 Recognizing Diagnostic Behavior
53:59 High and Low Diagnostic Behavior
56:48 Deciding Whom to Trust
1:00:46 Deeper Explanation of the Triangle Tool
1:08:49 Role-Playing the Triangle Tool
1:14:48 Evaluating the Triangle Tool
1:18:12 Recognizing Intentional Harm
1:19:32 Repaired Relationships Vs. Partial Repair
1:20:46 Evolutionary Perspective On Investment In Relationship
1:23:44 Refining the Understanding of Doubt
1:25:20 Doubt Doesn't Mean You're Wrong
1:27:24 find Deb Lieberman & Peter Salerno online
1:28:18 Peter's Lessons from Doing the Workbook
1:30:12 Deb's Lessons from Doing the Workbook
1:32:23 Good Relationships Are Possible!
1:33:46 Further Recommendations
-Previous interview with Peter & Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgE

RESOURCES
Previous interview with Peter & Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgE
Previous interview with Peter: https://youtu.be/3NIPDxiiRrs
Interview with Harry Reis: https://youtu.be/PKbyOtxvwJM
Peter and Deb's book: https://amzn.to/3SNwIZP
Peter Salerno's website: https://www.drpetersalerno.com/
Peter on YouTube:  @DrPeterSalerno  
Deb's lab: https://liebermanlabs.com
Deb's business: https://rdqnlabs.com
Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq
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In this episode, Dr. Debra Lieberman and Dr. Peter Salerno discuss how to rebuild self-trust after suffering from covert relational abuse.