How to Identify a Social Predator (The 4 Phases) - Dr Peter Salerno

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00:00 In This Episode
00:32 Introducing Dr. Peter Salerno
00:44 Predatory Relationships: The Most Common Patterns
02:40 Why You Are Targeted by a Predator
04:59 Who Is Vulnerable to a Social Predator?
08:11 The Tactics of a Social Predator
10:07 The Psychological Structure of Predatory Behavior
13:29 Learn to Use Patterns Not Diagnoses
16:14 The Lingering Upset Effect
18:38 Gut Feelings and Predators
20:40 Questions to Ask Yourself In Relationships
22:27 Finding Useful Information on Personality Disorders
-Peter Salerno on Narcissism and Genetics: https://youtu.be/yx-0px-ymtM
25:40 When to Stop Studying Predators
26:58 Group Therapy and Recovery
28:47 Phase 1: Idealization (Trust)
36:19 How Idealization Ends
37:45 Phase 2: Devaluation (Control)
40:04 Intermittent Reinforcement and Gaslighting
42:18 Identifying Intentional Harm
46:49 Maintaining Control Over a Target
48:02 Why We Can't Recognize Devaluation
49:22 Social Isolation and Immersion Tactics
51:40 How Devaluation Ends
52:30 Phase 3: Abandonment (Avoiding Accountability)
53:13 Shocking the Target
54:58 Publicly Replacing the Target
57:28 Tactics of the Abandonment Phase
58:40 Recycling Tactics of Idealization
1:01:41 How Abandonment Ends
1:02:18 How to Disengage
1:03:04 Phase 4: Post-Relationship Abuse
1:04:16 Tactics of Post-Relationship Abuse
1:05:38 Smear Campaigns and Reputational Destruction
1:08:02 Preparation for Post-Relationship Abuse
1:10:37 Are Predators In Denial?
1:12:37 The Most Important Thing to Understand
1:13:43 Trance and False Intimacy
1:14:48 Callousness: The Most Important Trait
1:17:32 find Dr. Peter Salerno online
1:18:04 Upcoming Project with Dr. Debra Lieberman
-Previous interview with Peter and Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgE
1:19:50 Further Recommendations
-Previous interview with Peter Salerno: https://youtu.be/lt8AC7x34S8

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In this conversation we cover why you do not need a diagnosis to identify the patterns of a social predator, the four phases every predatory relationship moves through, and the critical difference between a defense mechanism and what Dr. Peter Salerno calls a preference mechanism: an offensive tactic delivered in the costume of a defense. He also explains the lingering upset effect, the reason one conversation can cost you a week of sleep, and why that particular confusion is installed rather than accidental.

Dr. Peter Salerno is a licensed psychotherapist with a doctorate in clinical psychology, trained to administer the Hare Psychopathy Checklist-Revised, the standard used to evaluate psychopathy in clinical and forensic settings, and a featured expert in the Hulu docuseries Ted Bundy: Dialogue with the Devil. His book is The Social Predator's Secret Playbook: Traits and Tactics of Pathological Personalities and How to Recognize Them.

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