Here’s the brutal truth about making friends as an adult: nobody is coming to find you.
You want more friends. You want people who really know you, people you can call, people you actually want to spend time with. You just don’t want to go through the awkward, exhausting process of making them.
And maybe somewhere along the way, you started wondering: Is something wrong with me? Am I too introverted? Too awkward? Too weird?
Nope. But there is an uncomfortable truth: your future best friends probably aren’t going to magically show up at your house. Making friends requires action. The good news? You do not need to become an extrovert, work the room, or reinvent your personality.
I’m joined by psychologist and marriage and family therapist Dr. Suzanne Wallach to unpack why adult friendship has gotten so hard and what actually works when you’re lonely, out of practice, or just really tired.
You’ll learn:
Why making friends as an adult feels so freaking hard
Where adults actually meet people they might want to be friends with
What to do when you want friends but dread the effort
How introverts can build close friendships without pretending to be extroverts
Why being comfortable alone can actually help you build better relationships
Because you do not need 100 friends. You need a few good ones. And you don’t need to be less weird.
You need to find your specific genre of weirdo.
And if you’re realizing there’s a gap between the social life you have and the one you want, you don’t have to figure out how to close it alone. At Growing Self, our therapists and coaches help people create stronger relationships, build confidence, and make meaningful changes in every area of their lives.
Book your free consultation and get matched with the right expert for you.
Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Growing Self
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