What if the thing you have been calling failure is actually the first honest moment?
In this episode of Before It Breaks, Gabriella Pomare sits down with Lola Berry — Australian author, podcaster, actor, nutritionist and host of Fearlessly Failing — for a warm, honest and deeply human conversation about failure, reinvention, relationships, self-trust, ambition, wellness, therapy, creativity and the courage to start again.
This episode is about the moments when the old story stops working.
The relationship that no longer fits.
The career that once made sense.
The timeline you thought you had to follow.
The identity you outgrew.
The dream that changed shape.
The version of yourself you kept performing because leaving it behind felt too much like failure.
Gabriella and Lola explore why so many people stay too long in relationships, careers, friendships, cities and life chapters because they are afraid of being judged, misunderstood or seen as inconsistent. They talk about adult friendship breakups, value alignment, long-distance love, moving to LA, starting over, creative rejection, therapy, comparison, self-care, emotional honesty and why the body often knows the truth before the mind is ready to admit it.
Lola shares what failure has taught her, why she now sees it as a gift, and how letting go can sometimes create the space for something more aligned to arrive. From selling a business with her name on it, to pursuing acting in Los Angeles, to learning how to stop living up to other people’s expectations, this conversation is a reminder that changing direction is not the same as giving up.
It may be the moment you finally stop abandoning yourself to keep the old story alive.
In this episode, Gabriella and Lola discuss:
- why failure can be information, not identity;
- how to know when something no longer feels aligned;
- why we stay too long in relationships, careers and friendships;
- adult friendship breakups and one-way relationships;
- the importance of value alignment in love, work and friendship;
- long-distance relationships, therapy and honest communication;
- moving countries and starting again in a new city;
- creative rejection, self-worth and resilience;
- comparison, social media and the myth that everyone else is ahead;
- the difference between real self-care and constant self-optimisation;
- why your body may know the truth before your mind is ready;
- releasing timelines, expectations and old versions of success;
- and what it means to follow what makes you feel alive.
This episode is for anyone who feels behind, stuck, uncertain or afraid to change direction.
For anyone who has outgrown a version of themselves.
For anyone who is scared that starting again means they have failed.
For anyone watching other people’s lives unfold online and wondering why theirs looks different.
For anyone trying to decide whether to keep forcing the plan — or finally listen to the part of themselves that knows something has shifted.
Because sometimes the break is not the end.
Sometimes it is the beginning of a more honest life.
Listen to Before You Call It Failure: Lola Berry on Reinvention, Self-Trust and Starting Again on Before It Breaks with Gabriella Pomare.
This podcast is for general information, education and discussion only and is not legal advice, psychological advice, counselling or therapy.
